Divorce, Dating and Children [Part 2, Dating]

Divorce, Dating and Children [Part 2, Dating]

Read part 1, “The Divorce” by clicking here.

After the storms of divorce have calmed down and the emotional winds have been lulled into love’s accepting embrace many divorced parents begin dating.

Tricky thing dating can be in and of itself, let alone when it’s single parents with children involved in the mix.

Beyond the additional precautions single parents must take when seeking a serious relationship, ensuring their potential mates are not only a good match for self but for their children is the question of involvement. How involved do we get our dates and children with one another.

Note in the above paragraph I specifically used the term “serious relationship”. This is because when it comes to causal dating there is NO QUESTION pertaining to involvement the answer is NONE.

Children have NO PLACE in the casual dating game.

Children are NOT dating your potential partners, especially when those partners are only casual and fleeting relationships.

It’s important to keep in mind that again, as mentioned in part 1 of this series, “Divorce, Dating & Children”, children’s understanding of intimate relationships is minimal at best. They have a very surface understanding that is mainly based within ‘fairy tale’ perfection. In other words, for children everything ends happily ever after with mom and dad, the prince and princess always platonically embracing in bliss. Imagine how surprising let alone confusing it is to a child for the prince to be romantically embracing many princesses or vica verca. And this is only the beginning.

When single parents are dating regularly, and getting involved in longer term, committed relationships, the question of children’s involvement really becomes a necessary ponderance. We all know how attached we can become to our intimate partners, imagine what that attachment is like for our children. More over, we all know how difficult ‘break-ups’ can be…….imagine what it is like for our children to go through another break up [in addition to the divorce of their parents] if not many, with the greater potential of them completely losing contact altogether with yet another significant individual in their lives.

This CAN BE avoided……to varying degree, depending upon the choices of the parents, as ALLways. 😀

As soon as we involve children within our relationships, we are essentially saying this is someone safe, someone you can open your heart to, someone you can trust, someone you can foster a relationship with. This relationship may be one depending upon the nature of the involvement that is fostered that the child may grow dependent upon. This means that if the relationship does not ‘work out’, if the couple breaks up, the child too must go through the ‘break up’, not cool.

So what do we do? How do we protect our children?

It’s an interesting question that is multi-layered. On the one hand if you are ‘getting serious’ about someone, or at least think that you are, as a single-parent you are going to want to ensure that your child and your ‘significant other’ get along, preferably very well.

How do you ascertain this potential if they have never met?

Sure you can make conjectures here and there, based upon this, that and the other “I believe they would get along famously”, but we all know how askew our assumptions can be. Until two people meet, whichever two people they may be, we can never know forsure how they will get along. Further more, when two people only meet on one or two occasions and don’t really have the opportunity to spend any quality time together, how well they would get along long term can be difficult to gauge. Kinda like when two people have been dating, even for years and then decide to move into together only to find out that if their relationship is to last, living together can NOT be part of the equation.

Well, for single parents, this is obviously not an option with respect to their children. If their children do not get along with their significant other whom they are planning on moving in with, the child is not going to suddenly pack up and leave. Again, it just ain’t an option.

So we are back to our question, what do we to protect our children and ensure we are taking them into consideration and acting in their best interests even though those interests involve our own personal intimate relationships?

To BEgin with, we take things SLOWLY.

When first dating anyone new, do NOT date with your children. Until you know that someone is ‘someone’ to you, there is no need for your child to be participating in your dating experiences. There is plenty of time and opportunity for dating that does not involve your children. Might ya hafta get a babysitter, perhaps some friends or family involved to assist, ya maybe, but aren’t your kids worth it?

As the saying goes, where there is a will, there is a way. 😀

Moving beyond dating, when we are in a position where we know someone is ‘someone’, where we feel that there is a potential for something more serious than casual dating, single parents are definitely gonna want to ensure their children are feel’n somethin’ somethin’ positive for their someone, someone. 😀

Soooooo, a casual meeting, somewhere public, preferably child focused, like a park, perhaps a ‘chance meeting’ with ‘a friend of mommy’s or daddy’s’ and for a limited duration. Ya don’t want to bombard or over load your child. Patience is definitely a virtue in this very special ‘dating game’.

Couple the chance meeting with a couple more ‘sightings’ here and there, and then move into group get togethers, where a few friends including the significant other is in company, perhaps going out for a dinner, going to another mutual friend’s home, etc…..moving into a ‘play date’ type of get together, where mommy or daddy is simply having a ‘friend’ come over to have coffee or tea, hang and watch a game, movie, or show on t.v., wherein the significant other is given the opportunity to have some ‘alone time’, maybe while mom/dad is making the coffee or tea, or simply chooses to go say hey to the child, spend a moment or two with them, whatever it is they happen to be doing, and slowly but surely growing the involvement from there. This could mean growing the involvement into planned outings together, again, taking it slowly, you don’t want to go from never before meeting to going out together on a weekly basis. In addition to the interactions between significant other and child is the interaction between you and your significant other and you and your child.

When first starting out, you want to maintain a visibly platonic relationship in front of your children. There is no need for labels such as girl/boyfriend, nor is there for obvious displays of intimate affection any more than one would give to a FRIEND. In fact, the one to whom the obvious displays of affection should be given is to the child. It is important when introducing someone new into your child’s life that your child know their relationship with you is not threatened by this new person. Thus, make it a point to be paying attention to your child when you are all together, ensuring they have your attention without of course going over board. In other words, if you don’t normally hug and kiss your child 20 times every hour, then don’t suddenly start doing it now. However, if you do regularly embrace them lovingly make sure that you so do when in the company of your significant other.

Displays of affection between you and your significant other when with your child should grow hand in hand with their relationship with your child and your child’s comfort level with them. In other words, let your child lead the way. The more comfortable they are, the happier all will be.

Again, this is only once, as a single parent, we know that whomever it is we are dating is actually someone of significance. Of course it is important to note that we are talking about children. As our children grow, start to become young adults themselves, their need for our protection is not quite as high, as they are beginning to live their own lives and are simply not as involved within their parent’s life, let alone around quite as much to be affected by their parent’s lives.

Still, no matter what age your children are, you always want your children to have a healthy relationship with your significant other and your children always want to know that you love and respect them enough to take them into consideration. That being said, arranging appropriate opportunities for your children regardless of their age to meet, interact with and get to know someone you consider ‘someone’ remains an important facet of a single parent’s dating life.

 

And what if you really thought that someone was ‘someone’, and went to the lengths of slowly integrating them into your child’s life and it turned out they weren’t?

Again, hopefully when it comes to determinging someone is ‘someone’ in your life, you take your time, quality time to determine them so, hence there shan’t be a revolving door of significant ‘someone’s’ in your life, let alone and more importantly, your child’s life. Having said that, should this occur, as with the divorce, open lines of communication assist in any transition. Dating, getting involved in relationships, breaking up, are all a part of being human. We are social animals, whether on an intimate basis or simply plantonic friendship, we all have people in our lives that come and go, that stay for a moment, a few years or a lifetime. Discussing this openly [with appropriate discretion] with your children provides the opportunity to assist them with their own relationships and how to best handle making new friends, getting involved in intimate relationships, and dissolving relationships in the healthiest and most compassionate manner possible.

Here is to ALL of we finding our special ‘someone’ and enJOYing healthy, happy, ascended relationships of LOVE’s Light for the BEnefit of ALL.

Blissedly BE
Radiating LOVE,
Roni*

Divorce, Dating and Children [Part 1, The Divorce]

Divorce, Dating and Children [Part 1, The Divorce]

Divorce can be a difficult experience for any couple let alone when that couple shares children together. Obviously it is much easier on all parties concerned when the couple divorcing is able to so do amicably, with mutal respect and compassion, unfortunately, this is more often than not, not the case.

Divorce for children as a result, is generally much more difficult for the children than the couple involved. Children don’t understand the complexities involved behind the reasoning for the divorce, as they are not the ones involved in said resonsing. More often than not, being in the ego-centric stage of life they are, and seeing their parents as nothing short of ‘gods’, children tend to blame themselves for their parent’s divorce.

This can affect even those children who are merely babes when mom and dad choose to not stay together or may have never been together. As the child grows up, becomes more consciously aware of norms and ‘gets out into the world’ – enters preschool, surrounded by other children and witnesses for themselves how other children live with both mommy and daddy, they begin to ask questions and wonder what was wrong with them that their mommy and daddy are not together like all their friend’s parents who are.

This skewed perceptual outlook is greatly assisted with open lines of communication with our children, explaining outright that the divorce or mom and dad not being together is no reflection upon them or their actions, and further supported by the assurance that the love of BOTH parents for the children is unwavering.

A difficult concept for a child to comprehend in that they are watching their parents, [those who are old enough to understand what is going on], whom to them are the epitome of perfection and thus the example of love itself, take their love away from one another.

To a child this is an automatic marker that one day their parents may take their love away from them.

This of course is only compounded when divorces get ‘ugly’ and parents are not careFull to ensure that their personal anger, resentement, and any negative feelings towards one another and about the divorce are kept in check when in front of their children. An unfortunate all too often state of affairs when it comes to divorce.

The truth is, as much as we idolize our parents, they are people too. They come fully equipped with all the emotions, pains, hurt, anger, ‘bad experiences’, dreams, goals, desires that any other of us ‘humans’ do.

And sometimes, these humans, our parents, expose these to their children, not necessarily in conscious awareness or intention but expose they do nonetheless.

It is thusly why it is so vastly important to ensure that the lines of communication are open with our children and more over that we are extraordinarly consciously aware of the impact of our action there upon.

Yes, it can be difficult to contain one’s outrage when in the midst of, well, an outraging experience, however, for the benefit of our children, using all the resources, tools and strength we have within us to muster to so do vital to our children’s well being. If this means having to take the kids to a neighbour, family member of friend for a few minutes or hours or lock yourself in the washroom for a spell, or close the door to your bedroom and scream into your pillow to ‘let off steam’ so BE it. It is a much healthier alternative than so doing in front of your children. On those occasion where one has ‘lost it’ in front of their children, again, open lines of communication is the answer. Acknowledge and apologize that you lost your temper, first and foremost. Just as when our children have a temper tantrum, we do not pretend it didn’t happen, we deal with it. Explain, in a language they can understand, that you were having a bad moment, that just like they sometimes get upset when something doesn’t go their way, you got upset in that moment but……and this is an important but, you realized, just as they do, after their temper tantrum, that whatever you were upset about is not as bad as you thought in the moment, that the temper tantrum you had was not necessary and that you just ‘got lost in the mud’ for a little bit, and are feeling much better right now. If you happened to say things that you should not have, [as opposed to just screaming or stomping, etc….] explain that you were speaking from your ‘angry place’ and were not thinking properly, you were not thinking from love – which IS the ‘Proper’ way to be thinking……ALLways.

Again open lines of communication are healthy and important, but remember, we are talking about children here, and their level of comprehension minimal in comparison. There is no need for our children to know the in’s and out’s, the nitty gritty details of why mom and dad are getting a divorce. More over there is no need for them to hear about all the negative reasons thereto. Mom and dad should never be put down by one another in front of the children whether when speaking to each other or about each other. This does nothing to assist the child.

Remember, though you may no longer love your partner or down right feel seething hate towards them they are still your child’s parent, as much as are you. Yes, even those parents who are absentee parents, not as involved, etc…..are still to the child, their mommy or daddy. As children we identify very strongly with our parents and thus to tell a child that your mom or dad is x,y, and z is to tell the child that they are this as well. Not cool.

What is cool to share with your child is your understanding of their sadness and their fears, as you feel it too. Change can seem scary, but that is only when we are thinking ahead as opposed to actually living the experience. Whilst living the experience, we are doing just that, living it. We are dealing with the experience of our lives, and though we may not allways like everything that is going on, we adjust; we survive and eventually thrive wherever it is that we find ourselves. Obviously, we would all prefer for everything to be ‘picture perfect’, however what defines ‘picture perfect’? To be able to assure our children that the choice mom and dad are making, though it may be difficult to see, again when looking ahead, is actually a choice that will make everyone much, much happier makes the entire transition period much easier for all concerned. Further more to go so far as to point out all the positives, as counterintuitive as that may seem, assists our children in focusing there upon. Again, as parents we have much influence as to where our children are focusing their attentions and what interpretations they are making thereof.

Once parents are able to so do, they can then enlist the creative support of their children in choosing how their new lives shall be. For example, in speaking of all the onederfull new things this ‘opportunity’ shall bring to them, get them involved – or at least allow them to think they are – in the decision making process of what that new life shall be. Divorce means 2 residents instead of one, so ask your children what kind of residence they would like, or take them with you when looking at potential new places. Ask them how they would like their new bedroom [s] decorated, what special things they would like to do with Mom and what special things they would like to do with Dad. Let them know they are not only being taken into consideration regarding all these new decisions but are also part of the decision making process – even if only in their eyes.

Divorce, as with anything in life is as easy or as difficult as we choose to make it. When it comes to children being involved, there is no other time that is more vitally important for us to make the choice to make it as easy as we possibly can. Leave the arguments, your anger, resentment, etc… out of the house and away from the children. This is likely one of the greatest opportunities any two people ever have to choose to mutually focus on the positives – in the very least so long as they are in the company of their children.

**Special note regarding dealing with an absentee, abusive or unavailable/mentally ill parent.***

As easy as it is to ‘go to town’ on said parent, and tell your child how horrible they are, it does NOTHING but demean your child’s own perception about themselves. If you are dealing with a parent who is absent, abusive or unavailable in some way, it is important to ensure your child knows that their parent DOES LOVE them, even if they are unable to [or simply do not at all] show or express it. Explaining to your child that their mom or dad has some ‘boo-boos’ that they need to go to the doctor to get help with for example is a much better choice than telling them what a useless, uncaring, irresponsible parent their mom or dad is. This not only inflicts pain unto your child, making them feel unworthy and undeserving of their parent’s love, it also, because their unavailable parent is not around, leaves the only one they have to blame and lash out on as you. Not something, that is not of your doing, that you want to have to shoulder the burden of. As the saying goes, ‘take the high road’ ensuring that above all else your child knows they are loved and wanted by both of their parents, even when one of them is incapable of showing/doing what is necessary to demonstate this truth.

BLISSedly BE
Radiating LOVE,
Roni*

deLIGHTs to brighten the Mind

deLIGHTs to brighten the Mind

BlissFull deLIGHTs to brighten my Mind’s perspective:

* Conscious Breathing

* Meditation –  Whether traditional or alternative, active or calm, for 5 minutes or 5 hours, meditation is allways a positive useFull ACTivity for one’s calm state of mind.

* Physical Fitness – I enJOY physical fitness at least 4-6x/week for 30-60 minutes.  A minimum of 20 minutes at least 3 times/week is HIGHly recommended to ALL.

* Conscious re-direction of my Mind’s Focus – taking negative thoughts and reCREATing them into Positive Affirmations and thus greatFull to them for coming in the 1st place to ALLOW for the Positive Affirming Energy of my HIGHest HAPPYness to BE that which IS radiating out of me.

* Conscious Communication – Informing, sharing, expressing myself through LOVE and when in need, asking for assistance from those I LOVE, who LOVE me, who are around me, who are able. In sharing with others, even when we are sharing negative experiences, we are actually giving the gift of knowing how important and cherished they are in our lives that we would go to them in the first place.

* Conscious Surrender and Letting Go – surrendering to that which IS, accepting where it IS I find mySELF in my external circumstances, recognizing and acKNOWledging my thoughts with relation thereto and surrendering them to LOVE. In accepting where I am and surrendering in acceptance to LOVE, I am also trusting that where I am is where I need to BE to BEnefit SELF and ALL else for the highest good.

As a result, I ALLOW for Positive thoughts to be my mind’s focus, [as indicated above] KNOWing thoughts affect the WHOLE of my BEing from my mood to my productivity, and ultimately, that which occurs in my manifest experience. Thus do I co-creatively collaborate with ALL that IS in manifesting actualized my HIGHest HAPPYness. 😀

* Conscious Environment – making conscious choices regarding that which I can adjust within my surrounding environment to BE of assistance to me whole-istically, body, mind and soul. From lighting to music playing, people I am sharing space to, to that which I am occupying my time doing.

* Consciously BEing in the NOW – CHOOSing to DO what it IS I have to DO in any given moment I find mySELF [like writing this right NOW] and completely BEing there. A way by which one can get themselves out of fear based thinking is to ask the question, “In this NOW, am I okay?” focusing EXCLUSIVELY on the NOW of the moment in which the question is BEing asked, not a second, day, week or month later, but right in this NOW, as you are reading this on your computer, are you okay? DO YOU have ALL YOU require to sustain self? Are you clothed, sheltered, and fed? This is also another form of/pathway to surrendering & letting go……

As I shall NOW mySELF DO…as I am off to enJOY…….BEing*

Blissedly BE.
Radiating LOVE,
Roni*

Occupy LOVE

Occupy LOVE

  • *Toxic foods being promoted as healthy options which we Should be feeding to not only ourselves but our children.
  • *Political campaigns which make promises that never come to fruition.
  • *Tax monies going to fear based causes.
  • *Media coverage that is specifically chosen [of the billions of news items available] to purposefully instill fear.
  • *Self worth and value associated with status quo and income instead of character and actions of love.
  • *Separation, competition, isolation, judgement of others promoted instead of the truth of our wholistic unity.
  • *Weakness, neediness, victimhood touted as precursors to receiving instead of strength, giving and self love.
  • *Wars as a solution, killing, death, destruction as the means of achieving freedom instead of the blatant lack of honour, respect and humbled appreciation for the miracle that is life.

This amongst a plethora of other reasons, IS the “WHY” we are “Occupying” around the world and WHY we MUST maintain our stance….

As the saying goes, “The Bigger they are, the harder they fall”.

The occupation gatherings internationally are standing up to an ‘organization’ that has BEen interweaving itSELF under our very noses for THOUSANDS of years. Just like our individual fears which can keep coming back [’til we rehabitualize]….we must BE as diligent, committed, dedicated and persistent to healing our world, our entire Universal Family from the dis-ease that IS this globally infected fear created of false pretenses, lies, and complete and utter deception by those whom we refer to as “the 1%”.

The first step………INFORM, EDUCATE…..SPREAD the Word, Share the TRUTH, BE LOVE with ALL YOU KNOW****

 

**IMPORTANT NOTE**

This is NOT, N-O-T, not a call to ‘arms’, ‘anger’, or ‘confrontation’….we need not any of the above.
We are the MAJORITY…n’est ce pas…”the 99%”…..

Once we educate and inform – which IS a necessity – through LOVE** yes, even in discussing the DISGUSTINGness that has BEen going on for millenia……we the majority, the 99% need only BEgin to make NEW CHOICEs.  These new choices are choices in our individual lives.  It IS within our own little ‘piece of the pie’ where we have the Grrrreatest affect upon the whole.  It IS in HOW we CHOOSE to BE within our daily lives, as a person, to our self and all those around us that we leave our imprint upon humanity.

NOTHING can exist [which the “1%” have BEen DOing] without US.

No wars can BE fought without soliders, no gmo’s can be planted without individual chemists creating the gmo’s and farmers planting the seeds, no banks can loan out pseudomonies without our monies going into them and without us using them.

They NEED Us.

With education and information we can BEgin to make HEALTHIER CHOICEs……TOGETHER, United, in LOVE, of LOVE, through LOVE, for LOVE, for the BEnefit of ALL****

_(l)_ Bliss***

P.S.
‘Tis everything MOST of – okay a lot of us – okay a growing percentage of us [and one that IS growing exponentially by the day] ALLready KNOW…it’s just that we [not all but most] have BEen so terrifed into compliance by the fear tactics that have BEen utilized to keep us ‘in line’ for 1000’s of years we don’t necessarily realize just how powerFull, capable, resourceFull, ABLE to make the changes we all want to see, we really are.

…..but we are capable, resourceful and the manifesting power behind all that has come to pass, and we are also awakening to this TRUTH of our inherent emPOWERed states of BEing and thus gathering [occupying] together and creating the rippling waves of change that are gonna rock our world like an infinite domino game…..

‘Tis ALL very, very ONEderFull, indeed. ;D

BLISSedly BE
Radiating LOVE,
Roni*

 

Accepting YOU

Accepting YOU

We hear much regarding 2012 and our transcending evolution pertaining to the recognized realization and integration of our selves and ALL that IS as ONE.

Thing IS we also hear A LOT of talk about the different//separate parts of our own selves….the “battle” of the ego, the struggle between mind and heart, the attempt to get our emotions under control, the disconnect essentially of SELF with SELF.

If we are to recognize, realize, integrate and manifest our WHOLEistic BEingness, our ONEness with ALL that IS, ever was or will BE, we must start with SELF.

‘Tis time to stop BEing so hard on our selves, on that which we have chosen to label and separate withIN SELF and start to INTEGRATE our SELF with our SELF on ALL levels of BEingness. In other words, not only upon that which actually IS [for in truth we can NOT separate the mind from the emotions from the heart from the ‘ego’ from the astral body, from the physical body, from the…..we are in truth….manifest…..ONE] but withIN our thoughts and feelings pertaining thereto.

We are as much our ego, as we are our emotions, as we are our minds, as we are our hearts, ALL of these “aspects” of SELF are SELF……….are ONE with ALL that IS, ever was or will BE.

When we stop separating self from self we can BEgin healing where withIN self we are feeling disconnected, or unLOVEd or unLOVing. For in truth, any “aspect” of SELF that IS NOT BEing LOVE IS merely feeling unloved or unworthy of LOVE.…..as opposed to some heinous monsterous aspect that IS somehow foreign to our truth, that IS somehow NOT us, as has been attributed to that which we call ‘ego’ for example. Simply not the case…….we are ALL that and sooooooo much more.

‘Tis time to embrace SELF…..ALL of SELF……in, through, of, for, with, BEing LOVE.*

Blissedly BE
Radiating LOVE,
Roni*

Healing our Soul Shocks for the BEnefit of ALL

Healing our Soul Shocks for the BEnefit of ALL

So, I gotta BE honest with ya….I have BEen in a bit of a depressive slump of late….experiencing some hugely consuming and at times deafening and drowning emotions as I have not in some time, and definitely not quite like this BEfore. Everything from straight up depression to complete confusion, enraged anger to absolute unbreathable feelings of loss and mourning.
OY*

These feelings I am experiencing are of course tied up with my external circumstances and things that have or have not been actualizing therein.  Still, how one feels about anything IS how one chooses to feel….even that which we deem to BE the worst of the worst is so BEcause we have so labelled it to BE.

Outside of my extreme empathic channelling, which I AM more unconscious of than conscious- when channelling others’ emotions from a distance, [feeling the feelings of others whom I am connected to in some way without having to see, speak or know of anything they may be going through, and often times as a result owning these feelings that are not mine to own….which invariably are revealed to me] the fact IS we are ALL in a time of GREAT HEALing. With great healing MUST we “treat our wounds”…..sometimes, wounds that have BEen lying dormant for years.

We BEgin with Acceptance, leaning into the feelings we are having, facing them with a LOVing Heart instead of running away from them, and finding out why they are there, what message they come with, and move – sometimes very slowly ;D into Gratitude, _(l)_ as am I most DEEPly grrreatFull for ALL of YOU**

It IS TRUE, we need NOT look upon ALL of our wounds, if we simply CHOOSE to “BE LOVE” ALLways.

Of course in our current fear [fight/flight] conditioned world this requires an individual who has BEen PRACTISING “BEing LOVE” diligently – for in so DOing are our wounds healed. 😀

Wherever we have NOT BEen LOVing to SELF IS a “wound”, a “Soul Shock” if you will that until it IS addressed, either by simply CHOOSing to release the negative thoughts and feelings into LOVE’s embrace or by going through a process of understanding the negative thoughts, potentially forgiving self and others, and definitely retraining the brain and realigning the mind into our natural inherent home of the heart’s unconditional LOVE, can keep recurring through out our life times.

It IS that in this NOW, we are ALL BEing given the opportunity – some including mySELF would say, we have ALL CHOSEn to BE here to take this opportunity, to face our Fears LOVingly, to transcend the fear based separation conditioning of our ancestory and usher in a world as it IS meant to BE with ALL of WE living as the ONE Universal Family of LOVE’s Light we are.

And ONEderFully…….we are and we can see evidence of it EVERYWHERE physically manifest.

It IS a journey requiring PATIENCE……remembering that we are realigning our minds back into their hearts where they have NOT resided for THOUSANDS of YEARS……Wow***

That’s quite the Opportunity each of we has CHOSEn to come to our Earth School to experience, for the BEnefit of ALL, n’est ce pas?

This is the journey we are ALL upon……..aligning our Minds withIN LOVE’s Light….ALLOWing our selves to start to see our world, interACT, interpret, respond [NOT react] to our experience of BEingness by BEing our Authentic Selves, BEings of LOVE’s Light, and what a glorious journey it IS.*

I LOVE YOU**

Blissedly BE
Radiating LOVE,
Roni*