“Oh honey, you made your bed, how wonderful!
Well, at least you can see the dust mites now.”
“Lovely hair, especially when it falls onto your face, covering your ears.”
“You know your work could improve a lot if you had any talent”
Backward comments, underhanded, left sided, unexpected, calm, maliciously mischevious, pick your label, based upon your own experience, they are all one in the same.
Sure, there’s a polar scale, isn’t there always.
You’ve got the “low end” passive-aggressives……”hey, do you want to come with me to the guy, work off that butt”,
“oops, sorry, did I forget it was your birthday? “
and of course, the deceptive manipulators, “well, if you really loved me, you know you wouldn’t even ask why”,
but all in all, they are what falls into the category known as “passive aggressive”.
They don’t confront you with the truth, face on or otherwise, instead they get “even”, vent their stored up anger, or otherwise miscommunicated feelings through actions of lesser importance than the reason for the actual anger or miscommunicated feelings in the first place.
It is the “SAFE” way to ‘get even’, ‘let them have it’, or otherwise, ‘get your way’.
Is it a personality disorder?
Well, at its most severe, I suppose one could choose to adopt such a label.
It does however, exist everywhere, in all ‘labels’ of people, and what it comes down to, is averting the TRUTH.
Pretty simple actually.
It becomes “manic”, when it becomes ‘habitual’, kinda like smoking.
You try it, don’t like it, try it again, like it, keep on keep’in on and before you know it, you’re an ‘addict’.
And still,
LYING TO YOUr SELF.
The thing with ANY, who partake in passive-aggresssive behaviours, or any negative behaviour for that matter, do so usually, for the majority, not of conscious intention, but fear submission, based upon years, in fact centuries of illusory conditioning. It is, albeit “a negative”, as are all the positives we pass on/carry on, a lesson/gift/opportunity we unintentionally…..because of the lack of awareness, have been passing along to our closest molecular family members, for generations…….a part, if you will, of our heritage……..
When others are “mean” to us, they are in truth…….for the most part……..really feeling upset about something that has everything to do with them, and nothing to do with YOU as a person, but a BEauty of BEingness you eminate so naturally, they are left judging self, instead of LOVing self…….of course when done knowingly, it can be difficult not to project onto another…..let alone, unknowingly………although truthfully, we all do KNOWALL…….we simply have been conditioned to ignore those aspects of SELF we do not like, “it’s how you have to be to survive in this world honey……”…….make excuses for them….or otherwise, turn a well conditioned, well taught, well demonstrated “blind eye”…..
Those of us, who are proactive, positive people, who attract a BEing of this into their personal lives……….{pretty difficult with the vast majority still awakening from the brain washing}, do so, for the opportunity to grow, as their own BEing…….to face their own conditioning, challenge their own preconceived or conditioned notions to find TRUTH……
Attraction is a two way street……..most of the time……..And those who are living from Fear, are attracted to BEings of Light, as are we all, for they, WE, represent TRUTH, and though on their brainwashed “socially acceptable” level they may not be able to express it………hence all the passive aggressive commentaries and actions…….etc…..they do KNOW in their TRUTH, at the base of their BEingness, that we are THE example………and if WE ARE………..then it IS possible, for them to so be, as well :O)
Blessedly BE
in the
TRUTH of WE
within the
Embracing LIGHT of
PeaceFULL LOVing Serenity,
and…..a Grrrrreat BIG Party!